Attachment Styles in close relationships.(ECR)
Most people would probably benefit from being more aware of their attachment styles in close relationships with the crucial knock on effects this has on our partners,friends,work relationships and children.It’s part of healthy maturing to keep what we value from our upbringing and work to change what we feel is no longer helpful.
In 1990 Bartholomew published an influential paper arguing that a four-category model was more accurate.
Her four categories are:
A. It is easy for me to become emotionally close to others.I am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me.I don’t worry about being alone or having others not accept me.
B. I am uncomfortable getting close to others.I want emotionally close relationships,but I find it difficult to trust others completely,or to depend on them.I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others.
C. I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others,but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I am uncomfortable being without close relationships,but I sometimes worry that others don’t value me as much as I value them.
D. I am comfortable without close emotional relationships.It’s very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient,and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me.
Type A is classified as “secure”attachment,Type B as “fearful-avoidant”,Type C as “preoccupied” and Type D as “dismissive”.
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